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Use stories to engage your audience

Wednesday, November 21st, 2012
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Today a client and I were discussing technical and strategic presentations. She had recently heard a very good presentation at a conference in Australia.  Afterwards she found herself working out what made the communication so good, because the presenter wasn’t charismatic and she wasn’t particularly funny.  Although the presenter did have excellent visuals, it sounded like her very human story was what made it special.  One important aspect of the story was that the woman told  about her failures and moments when she felt daunted,  as well as talking about her successes with the project.

Audiences desire to   connect with a speaker, and sharing our weaknesses as well as our strengths can build a very human connection.

Don’t think that your story has to be very dramatic and set on an Mount Everest type of scale.  Sometimes the very ordinary human tales can be powerful for a group. I was practising story telling with a group of young military people a while ago. Some of their stories were set in exotic locations, others were tales of human courage, but the most effective story was a very simple one about the young recruit going home after her first three months of army training and realising she had outgrown her no-hoper mates.

Write your stories down, you never know when they will be useful. There’s a delightful post about the value of working on the wording of your stories at: iggypintardo’s posterous

You can help your story-telling ability by collecting four different types:

  1. Successes: We all like to be associated with success
  2. Failures: This creates real human sharing and can lead to what you learnt
  3. Funny stories: When an audience laughs they build a sense of belonging in that group
  4. Legends: These provide a very attractive shortcut to meaning.  legends can be true legends, urban legends or stories about famous people that have become apocryphal.

Good luck with using your own life to source transformational stories.

 

Project your voice to gain authority

Monday, July 16th, 2012
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Last week I sat up the back of a rehearsal of speakers in a science oratory contest.  I was struck by how relatively much harder it was for the light voices of the young female contestants to project authority in a large lecture theatre.  Microphones helped but didn’t remove the disparity.

Despite the light voices evident,  female voices are deepening.  In the US the average female voice deepened by 23 hertz from 1945 to 1993. 23 hertz is about a semitone in music. Don’t ask me how they know this!  It is thought that pitch deepening has coincided with women having to be more authoritative to advance in a career.  There is also interesting evidence that as our bodies get larger, our vocal cords lengthen  and thus  our voices deepen.

Why do we invest so much authority in  a deeper voice?  One obvious reason is that deeper pitches are easier to hear, so a deep voice will project across other people talking.  The evolutionary psychologists, who have a view on everything these days, believe that a deep voice signals more testosterone and thus more dominance!

There are plenty of tips available on how to deepen your voice. Take care that you don’t strain your vocal cords, but   improvements in your breathing technique can make a big difference. There are some good simple techniques in Tips on Talking.

Some  psychological barriers to a stronger voice are connected with the value we place on what we have to say and how we feel about risking disagreement. If your voice is too quiet or too high, think carefully about your self-perception when speaking.  If you value your message, you will speak up more strongly. If you prepare well so you are ready to handle disagreement, you will state your views more confidently.

Use the Four Ps:

  1. Posture: Push your shoulders back, so your lungs can expand and so you can feel confident
  2. Pronounce the whole of each word, so each syllable is articulated clearly.  This will create a stronger message
  3. Pace yourself, so you are speaking more slowly and giving  yourself time to breathe
  4. Pinpoint someone in the audience who is quite a distance away. Imagine you are speaking directly to them

Good luck with the husky voice, it can bring all sorts of benefits.

The key to understanding social interaction?

Monday, March 5th, 2012
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When we were kids, my uncle used to play a trick on us while we sat at a meal: He would start scratching his nose, gradually we kids would start scratching too. Suddenly he would shout: ‘Caught you!’ We’d look up and burst into giggles, realising we were all doing the same thing.

That was back a few years….well, a lot of years. It turns out that such imitation is the very essence of what makes us human. In the late 1980s and early 1990s, neurophysiologists found what could be a major way that the human brain creates this unconscious mimicry and called it the ‘mirror neuron’. If they are right, our rapidly expanding knowledge of mirror neurons has very wide implications for understanding how social interaction happens – how we develop into socialised humans, how we can improve our communication, even possibly an understanding of the basis of civilisation itself. So expect to hear the term used frequently in many fields.

I am a little bit skeptical. In recent years, I’ve watched, at very close quarters, a relative make an exceptional recovery from a serious brain injury. A sample of one, I know, but it has left me in awe at the complexity, multi-layeredness and sheer unexpectedness of the connections in the human brain. The mirror neuron theory sounds almost too handy to be true – a bit similar to the gross over- simplification of the right brain/left brain dichotomy.

Still, who am I to know? Some scientists are expressing wariness. Alison Gopnik, Professor of Psychology at University of California, Berkley is one. She wrote the wonderful book, ‘The Philosophical Baby’, so she knows a lot about human social learning. On the other hand, the great V.S Ramachandran is a fan, so it can’t all be bad! The Integral Options Cafe has a good brief summary of some of the debate. Anyone have any thoughts on it?

Simple tool for giving feedback

Monday, February 6th, 2012
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One reason I really enjoy leading training programmes is that often I will pick up a great tool from a participant.  O2 is a great tool I learnt from a guy on a course.  It is a two step way of starting off some feedback that is so simple it works:

  1. Make a neutral observation – just say what you have observed, what the data shows or whatever.  

Then….

2. Ask  neutral open question.

It’s so simple that it works!  The links above will give you a bit more background information on both stages.

Here’s an example:

1.  Observation: ‘I’ve noticed our meetings usually go well over time.’

2.  Open question: ‘What do you think we could do about that?’

Simple, isn’t it?  Try it and let me know how you get on.

Everyone (well almost everyone) likes a good news story

Wednesday, April 27th, 2011

The infamous Tui ads have  judged our mood so well, as they usually do.  The one I saw recently was “Even if I got an invitation to the royal wedding I wouldn’t go “.  “Yeah right!”   It sums it all up.

The cynics had a go at ridiculing the mounting interest in the upcoming Royal Wedding by Women’s magazines and  now as the day approaches it is surprising the number of people saying they will watch the event on TV ,or at least show an interest in the spectacle of pomp and ceremony that will occur.Have a look at  www.stuff.co.nz   The T-mobile royal wedding video

And why is this?  Is it because it stirs something in our cultural background?  Is it because it has stimulated debate about monarchy vs  Republic ,  or is just because it will be a good news event which recently we have had a dearth of?

As leaders in your organisations you will well understand how people respond to news. It is difficult with all the natural disasters that have occurred in New Zealand and globally recently to find good news stories.

 This is why it is important to motivate and stimulate your teams with stories that resonate with positive outcomes-the good news stories ,the reports of what has gone well rather than dwelling on what hasn’t. 

 You can have a good news session at the beginning of team meetings and ask your team to come up with their own.  It’s not being a pollyana it is valuing the good things that happen.

 If you look for the positive and look for the good news stories you will be surprised at the effect it has on everyone around.

 And this isn’t a “yeah right”!

Meetings: Time wasted in meetings matters for leadership

Tuesday, April 12th, 2011
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There’s an interesting article in the January 2011 Training Journal: ‘What’s Wrong With Work’ by Blair Palmer.  Rather than talking about leadership skills per se, he talks about organisational barriers to managers actually using their leadership skills – barriers that would ‘make even the most motivated, confident, driven manager shudder’.  One such barrier is the time wasted in meetings.  Palmer quotes very interesting American research on meetings* estimating that  managers spend approximately 60 hours a month in meetings and 30 -50% of that time is wasted.  When attendees are canvassed afterwards, they have widely varying ideas on what was decided, or even if anything was decided!

Interestingly the Training Journal article sees waste-of-time meetings as an unnecessary frustration put in the way of middle managers by  senior executives. While most senior executives know meetings waste vast amounts of time in an organisation, they don’t believe it can be any different.

But meetings don’t have to be  a waste of time  and ensuring that you lead effective meetings  can add considerably to your  mana.  Make sure you seek feedback  about the effectiveness of your own meetings – the research showed that the meeting initiator typically regards the meeting as far more productive than the other attendees!

  1. The key to a good meeting is preparation. The research in the white paper found that the average time spent on preparation for a meeting described as ‘productive’ was twice as long (one hour!) as the preparation time for a meeting described as ‘unproductive’.
  2. The single most valuable preparation factor is the agenda – even having one is an innovative idea in some meetings!  Keep the agenda very focused on the type of issue meetings are good for – resolving conflicts – Hence an intriguing post on the Life Hacker blog: Make meetings more productive by arguing.
  3. Work out  your goal  for each agenda item and ask yourself if a meeting is necessary in order to do that. For example, don’t use a meeting for sharing information – there are loads of more efficient ways of doing that.
  4. Use an approach for each agenda item that will enable the meeting to achieve its goal.
  5. Order your agenda so you start with a positive item, then wade into the conflicts because they will take the most time; then finish on a positive note.

Start anywhere with these tips and they can make a perceptible difference.  The quality of your meetings could have a big impact on employee engagement.  Despite our negativity about meetings,the research showed that 92% of meeting attendees value meetings as an opportunity to contribute.

* The research was conducted by Info Com which specialises in market research in the telecommunications arena.

The key to presence is being present

Friday, September 10th, 2010
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A common issue for our coaching clients in the past year has been the challenge of increasing the impact of their personal presence. Their  questions are often: ‘What is this ‘presence’  thing and how do I get more of it?’

While everyone needs to be aware of their personal presence, as we take on more influential leadership roles, we  need to be even  more conscious of establishing our presence.

 The key to it is simple…..or is it?

Seek first to understand

The message isn’t new:  Great personal presence requires us first to simply be present to others – by listening to them very carefully. Steven Covey sums it up well with his quote: ‘Seek first to understand before being understood.’

This seems very straightforward, but most of us tend to go into conversations focused much more on our own point of view – what we find interesting, what we want to talk about and so on.  This approach certainly establishes presence, but of the wrong sort!  To develop a strong positive presence, we need to focus first on understanding where the other person is coming from in the conversation.  

 Active listening is the key communication tool for keeping ourselves present.  There’s a challenge though, because while listening appears to be simple, it isn’t often easy.  The process requires commitment and real discipline of our conscious thought. Sometimes we have to keep repeating to ourselves: ‘I really want to listen to this person.’  When we manage to focus in this way, we are truly present. There is a very powerful story that captures the magic of this combination in The Power of Presence and Listening: A Fellow’s Narrative by Musharraf Navaid MD, in the Journal of Palliative Medicine.

Look effective when introducing a panel of speakers

Monday, August 30th, 2010
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Do you sometimes need to introduce a panel of speakers?  Many of our clients need to do this when bidding for some work, or when convening a panel of speakers at a conference. Ellen Finkelstein’s newsletter last week included a polished and simple way of doing this by using PowerPoint .

Aside from images providing faces and names, briefly explain why each person is included in the panel. Each panel member’s expertise needs to clearly add something special to the occasion and to fit with the whole.   As you introduce each person,you explain why Person B follows Person A and so on. In your introduction make sure you answer the following questions:

  1. Why we are covering this specific subject, as part of the whole presentation?
  2. Why we are covering this aspect now?

If you would like some more tips on other aspects of leading or convening a panel, there are some useful ones in Presentation Pointers